Jan 5, 2012


Feb 26, 2011

Failure is never an option.

I am sure all of you have played Minesweeper before, A single player game with the objective of clearing the mines without detonating any of it.The picture above shows that one minor mistake will cause failure of the mission. You will be thinking it is just only a game but it happened that we do steps on mines(failure)in our daily life too.

Well most people are afraid of failures in every aspects of life which covers relationships, careers, academic achievements, sports and many more. The fact is that fear of failure actually destroys the success of a person.

Trial and error are usually the prime means of solving life’s problems. Yet many people are afraid to undertake the trial because they’re too afraid of experiencing the error. They make the mistake of believing that all error is wrong and harmful, when most of it is both helpful and necessary. Error provides the feedback that points the way to success. Only error pushes people to put together a new and better trial, leading through yet more errors and trials until they can ultimately find a viable and creative solution. To meet with an error is not to fail, but to take one more step on the path to final success. No errors means no successes either.

One of the main reason why people are afraid of failure is mainly due to the cultures of perfection.Too many organizations today have cultures of perfection for example a set of organizational beliefs that any failure is unacceptable. Only pure, untainted success will do. To retain your reputation as an achiever, you must reach every goal and never, ever make a mistake that you can’t hide or blame on someone else. Imagine the stress and terror in an organization like that. The constant covering up of the smallest blemishes. The wild finger-pointing as everyone tries to shift the blame for the inevitable cock-ups and messes onto someone else. The rapid turnover as people rise high, then fall abruptly from grace. The lying, cheating, falsification of data, and hiding of problems—until they become crises that defy being hidden any longer.

The only way towards failure is by overcoming it.The Law of Feedback states: there is no failure; there is only feedback. Successful people look at mistakes as outcomes or results, not as failure. Unsuccessful people look at mistakes as permanent and personal.

Buckminster Fuller wrote, “Whatever humans have learned had to be learned as a consequence only of trial and error experience. Humans have learned only through mistakes.”

Most people self-limit themselves. Most people do not achieve a fraction of what they are capable of achieving because they are afraid to try because they are afraid they will fail.
Take these steps to overcome your fear of failure and move yourself forward to getting the result you desire:

Step One: Take action. Bold, decisive action. Do something scary. Fear of failure immobilizes you. To overcome this fear, you must act. When you act, act boldly.

Action gives you the power to change the circumstances or the situation. You must overcome the inertia by doing something. Dr. Robert Schuller asks, “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” What could you achieve? Be brave and just do it. If it doesn’t work out the way you want, then do something else. But DO SOMETHING NOW.

Step Two
: Persist. Successful people just don’t give up. They keep trying different approaches to achieving their outcomes until they finally get the results they want. Unsuccessful people try one thing that doesn’t work and then give up. Often people give up when they are on the threshold of succeeding.

Step Three: Don’t take failure personally. Failure is about behavior, outcomes, and results. Failure is not a personality characteristic. Although what you do may not give you the result you wanted, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. Because you made a mistake, doesn’t mean that you are a failure.

Step Four
: Do things differently. If what you are doing isn’t working, do something else. There is an old saying, “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.” If you’re not getting the results you want, then you must do something different. Most people stop doing anything at all, and this guarantees they won’t be successful.

Step Five: Don’t be so hard on yourself. Hey, if nothing else, you know what doesn’t work. Failure is a judgement or evaluation of behavior. Look at failure as an event or a happening, not as a person.

Step Six: Treat the experience as an opportunity to learn. Think of failure as a learning experience. What did you learn from the experience that will help you in the future? How can you use the experience to improve yourself or your situation? Ask yourself these questions:

1. What was the mistake?
2. Why did it happen?
3. How could it have been prevented?
4. How can I do better next time?

Then use what you learned from the experience to do things differently so you get different results next time. Learn from the experience or ignore it.

Step Seven
: Look for possible opportunities that result from the experience. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, says “every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.” Look for the opportunity and the benefit.

Step Eight: Fail forward fast. Tom Peters, the management guru, says that in today’s business world, companies must fail forward fast. What he means is that the way we learn is by making mistakes. So if we want to learn at a faster pace, we must make mistakes at a faster pace. The key is that you must learn from the mistakes you make so you don’t repeat them.

Feb 20, 2011

Be a Man!

What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity without becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand… or wimpy and emasculated on the other? What’s the most loving way for a conscious man to express himself?According to Stevepavlina shows what a true man does and I hope it will be useful tips for some men out there as I myself is in the learning process of being a man.Read and enjoy!

1. Make real decisions.
A man understands and respects the power of choice. He lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide and flourishes when he chooses a clear path.

When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He locks onto his target like a guided missile! There’s no guarantee he will reach his target, and he knows this, but he doesn’t need such guarantees. He simply enjoys the sense of inevitability that comes from pushing the launch button.

A man doesn’t require the approval of others. He’s willing to follow his heart wherever it leads him. When a man is following his heart-centered path, it’s of little consequence if the entire world is against him.

2. Put your relationships second.
A man who claims his #1 commitment in life is his relationship partner (or his family) is either too dishonest or too weak to be trusted. His loyalties are misplaced. A man who values individuals above his own integrity is a wretch, not a free thinker.

A man knows he must commit to something greater than satisfying the needs of a few people. He’s not willing to be domesticated, but he is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with greater challenges. He knows that when he shirks that duty, he becomes something less than a man. When others observe that the man is unyieldingly committed to his values and ideals, he gains their trust and respect, even when he cannot gain their direct support. The surest way for a man to lose the respect of others (as well as his self-respect) is to violate his own values.

Life will test the man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of loyalty to his principles. The man will be offered many temptations to expose his true loyalties. A man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever the man sacrifices his integrity, he loses his freedom… and himself as well. He becomes an object of pity.

3. Be willing to fail.
A man is willing to make mistakes. He’s willing to be wrong. He’d rather try and fail than do nothing.

A man’s self-trust is one of his greatest assets. When he second-guesses himself by worrying about failure, he diminishes himself. An intelligent man considers the prospect of failure, but he doesn’t preoccupy himself with pointless worry. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs, he can deal with it.

A man grows more from failure than he does from success. Success cannot test his resolve in the way that failure can. Success has its challenges, but a man learns more about himself when he takes on challenges that involve risk. When a man plays it safe, his vitality is lost, and he loses his edge.

4. Be confident.
A man speaks and acts with confidence. He owns his attitude.

A man doesn’t adopt a confident posture because he knows he’ll succeed. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome. But when the odds of success are clearly against him, he still exudes confidence. It isn’t because he’s ignorant or suffering from denial. It’s because he’s proving to himself that he has the strength to transcend his self-doubt. This builds his courage and persistence, two of his most valuable allies.

A man is willing to be defeated by the world. He’s willing to be taken down by circumstances beyond his control. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. He knows that when he stops trusting himself, he is surely lost. He’ll surrender to fate when necessary, but he won’t surrender to fear.

5. Express love actively.
A man is an active giver of love, not a passive receiver. A man is the first to initiate a conversation, the first to ask for what’s needed, and the first to say “I love you.” Waiting for someone else to make the first move is unbecoming of him. The universe does not respond positively to his hesitation. Only when he’s in motion do the floodgates of abundance open.

Man is the out-breath of source energy. It is his job — his duty — to share his love with the world. He must wean himself from suckling the energy of others and become a vibrant transmitter of energy himself. He must allow that energy to flow from source, through him, and into the world. When he assumes this role, he has no doubt he is living as his true self.

6. Re-channel sex energy.
A man doesn’t hide his sexuality. If others shrink from him because he’s too masculine, he allows them to have their reaction. There’s no need for him to lower his energy just to avoid frightening the timid. A man accepts the consequences of being male; he makes no apologies for his nature.

A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts. (You can do this by visualizing the energy rising, expanding, and eventually flowing throughout your entire body and beyond.)

A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals.

7. Face your fears.
For a man, being afraid of something is reason enough to do it. A man’s fear is a call to be tested. When a man hides from his fears, he knows he’s fallen out of alignment with his true self. He feels weak, depressed, and helpless. No matter how hard he tries to comfort himself and achieve a state of peace, he cannot overcome his inner feeling of dread. Only when facing his fears does a man experience peace.

A man makes a friend of risk. He doesn’t run and hide from the tests of fear. He turns toward them and engages them boldly.

A man succeeds or fails. A coward never makes the attempt. Specific outcomes are of less concern to a man than his direction.

A man feels like a man whenever he faces the right way, staring straight into his fears. He feels even more like a man when he advances in the direction of his fears, as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream.

8. Honor the masculinity of other men.
When a man sees a male friend undertaking a new venture that will clearly lead to failure, what does the man do? Does he warn his friend off such a path? No, the man encourages his friend to continue. The man knows it’s better for his friend to strike out confidently and learn from the failure experience. The man honors his friend’s decision to reach out and make the attempt. The man won’t deny his friend the benefits of a failure experience. The man may offer his friend guidance, but he knows his friend must fail repeatedly in order to develop self-trust and courage.

When you see a man at the gym struggling to lift a heavy weight, do you jump in and say, “Here… let me help you with that. Maybe the two of us can lift it together”? No, that would rob him of the growth experience — and probably make a quick enemy of him as well.

The male path is filled with obstacles. It typically includes more failures than successes. These obstacles help a man discover what’s truly important to him. Through repeated failures a man learns to persist in the pursuit of worthy goals and to abandon goals that are unworthy of him.

A man can handle being knocked down many times. For every physical setback he experiences, he enjoys a spiritual advancement, and that is enough for him.

9. Accept responsibility for your relationships.
A man chooses his friends, lovers, and associates consciously. He actively seeks out the company of people who inspire and challenge him, and he willingly sheds those who hold him back.

A man doesn’t blame others for his relationship problems. When a relationship is no longer compatible with his heart-centered path, he initiates the break-up and departs without blame or guilt.

A man holds himself accountable for the relationships he allows into his life. He holds others accountable for their behavior, but he holds himself accountable for his decision to tolerate such behavior.

A man teaches others how to treat him by the relationships he’s willing to allow into his life. A man refuses to fill his life with negative or destructive relationships; he knows that’s a form of self-abuse.

10. Die well.
A man’s great challenge is to develop the inner strength to express his true self. He must learn to share his love with the world without holding back. When a man is satisfied that he’s done that, he can make peace with death. But if he fails to do so, death becomes his enemy and haunts him all the days of his life.

A man cannot die well unless he lives well. A man lives well when he accepts his mortality and draws strength from knowing that his physical existence is temporary. When a man faces and accepts the inevitability of death… when he learns to see death as his ally instead of his enemy… he’s finally able to express his true self. So a man isn’t ready to live until he accepts that he’s already dead.

Mar 4, 2010

Justin Bieber

Discovered by Usher,this young Canadian boy got famous in youtube. I just love this "One Time" song based on its catchy beats along with the singer's feminine voices which I actually thought a girl singing it!


Aye aye aye aye aye aye aye aye

Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)
Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)
Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)

When I met you girl my heart went knock knock
Now them butterflies in my stomach wont stop stop
And even though its a struggle love is all we got
Ao we gon’ keep keep climbin’ till the mountain top

Your world is my world
And my fight is your fight
My breath is your breath
And your heart (and now I’ve got my)

One love
My one heart
My one life for sure
Lemme tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
And I’ma be your one guy
You’ll be my number one girl
Always makin time for you
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)

You look so deep
You know that it humbles me,
Your by my side and troubles them don’t trouble me
Many have called but the chosen Is you
Whatever you want shawty I’ll give it to you

Your world is my world
And my fight is your fight
My breath is your breath
And your heart (and now I’ve got my)

One love
My one heart
My one life for sure
Lemme tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
And I’ma be your one guy
You’ll be my number one girl
Always makin time for you
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)

Shawty right there
She’s got everything I need
and I’m gon’ tell her one time (one time)
Give you everything you need
Down to my last dime
She makes me happy
I know where I’ll be
Right by your side cause
She is the one

One love
My one heart
My one life for sure
Lemme tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
And I’ma be your one guy
You’ll be my number one girl
Always makin time for you
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)
I’ma tell you one time
(girl I love, girl I love you)

Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)
Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)
Me plus you (I’ma tell you one time)

Feb 14, 2010

Good Luck to all Horses!

I've been reading on some chinese zodiac forecasts how the horses are doing in the 2010 Year of the Tiger. The author(whose zodiac is a horse) gets a little overjoyed while reading some good news of the horses based on LOVE,LIFE and Fortune in this year.
Previously,I have a big doubt on these forecasts and even jeered some friends of mine for being so into this! Guess what,you will when you believe.
Trust me,some are unbelievably true and I am going through some of these forecast in life!

The Horse

Fun, charming and attractive sums up the Horse’s traits perfectly. They love parties and crowds and being the centre of attention. They can also be egotistical, hotheaded and impatient. The Horse is a considerate and protective friend and partner and when in his company, there will always be excitement around the next corner.

Forecast for 2010

The Year of the Tiger will be an exciting and lively year for the Horse. On the home and family front, there may be some changes with family members moving in, moving out or relocating to another location altogether. On the social front, the Horse will be in much demand with invitations to parties and gatherings increasing as the year moves on. Health wise, with such a busy year and added pressures, the Horse must ensure that he looks after his diet and gets adequate rest. Otherwise, irritability and heated arguments could arise unnecessarily. Those born under this sign will do exceptionally well career-wise this year. However, they must follow up leads and career openings with vigor in order to take advantage of the fast paced energy of the Tiger year. A word of caution for the Horse – they need to keep a careful eye on their finances as overspending could happen very easily. August through September will bring fantastic opportunities for those looking for love. March through May will be lucky for changing jobs or careers while November and December will bring fun and lively social gatherings.

Interesting Horse Facts:
Zodiac Stone: Golden Topaz
Special Flower: Rose
Best Hours: 11am-1pm
Season: Summer
Horoscope Colors: Orange, White, Yellow

Feb 13, 2010

I gotta learn MOre!

Everybody knows V-Day is a meaningful day, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones.If you were to buy a bouquet of stunning flowers today,it will cost double the price and possibly triple the price on the V day.So Guys, get it as soon as possible before your wallet hurts!

Well,some friends and relatives have been asking me whether I celebrate V day for the past recent years and sadly the answer is NO! What can I say,I am sure God will arrange everything perfectly for me though.Guess this year I have special reason to escape for being busy for CNY!

However things would'nt go smoothly without any efforts and targets right? Look at this LAZY SMUrF below, I think he resembles me!

Guess it is time to spruce up some dating skills though...
The problem is, Who should I refer to?

And for God's sake I love these tips from David De Angelo!

There's an old saying: "Luck is when opportunity meets preparation." If you want to be more successful out on the town, you need to prepare before you go out.

1. Get Fit

Get into a habit of hitting the gym several times a week, and ALWAYS do it on the days you plan to go out later in the evening. You should consider exercise part of your pre-party ritual. Not only will you get into great physical shape, but exercise itself produces endorphins that will get you pumped up mentally for the evening. You'll also notice a boost to your confidence, which in turn will make women notice you.(JOHNJOHN gave an absolutely knod to this!)

2. Get Your House Ready
In preparing for tonight's outing, you need to think ahead and plan for a best case scenario. If you end up having some "company" later, you need to have your place clean and presentable. Always have a bottle of wine handy. Set up a few fun props throughout the house that will make interesting conversation pieces. Think Zen Gardens, a cool coffee table book, or a unique art piece. The more interactive the better! And most importantly, make sure your bedroom is clean, and your bed is made. They say a woman won't get into an unmade bed… I don't know if this is true but I'm not going to be the one to test it out! (Erm,this if still far behind though)

3. Read Up On Current Events
Scan the news today and stay informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. This is perfect material for conversations. Even if you aren't that interested in this stuff yourself, you need to show that you are "in the loop" and that you get it. Especially pay attention to celebrity affairs and break ups (There's a new one every week!). Women will be almost too willing to discuss these topics. It's like candy to them! (AGREE!)

4. Get Positive
Nobody wants to be around a negative person, and if you want to be successful with women, you need to come from a positive place. Before you go out for the evening, relax for a little bit. Put yourself into a comfortable space mentally, and use positive self talk to eliminate insecurities. Try to remember a time in your life when you were particularly confident and successful. Try to recall exactly how that felt, down to the smallest detail. How did you walk? What kind of expression did you have on your face? What was your tone of voice? Bring that moment into the present, and watch how it affects your entire evening! (JOHNJOHN GAVE THUMBS UP!)

5. Pre-Party
The Pre-Party should become a ritual you have every time you go out. Think of it like an opening act – it's a warm up for the main event. Meet a few friends, either at your place or theirs. Share a few drinks. Listen to music that pumps you up. Watch some standup comedy, or listen to comedy albums. Share a few jokes. Make yourself and each other laugh. This will put you in the right frame of mind for the rest of the evening.(JOHNJOHN sticks a sillyhat to himself)

6. Think Of Funny And Interesting Stories
In order to avoid awkward moments of silence when talking with women, always have a few interesting and unique stories. Now is the time to come up with some – BEFORE you go out. Make the stories as humorous as possible. For example, you could talk about how you saved somebody's life who almost died in a very embarrassing way. Or you can talk about something unusual that happened while you were travelling abroad. Whatever you decide to talk about, make sure that it makes you look good – you want to come across as confident and humorous, not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to know more.(AGREE!)

7. Clothing
When selecting clothing to wear, make sure that is current, and fits your persona. You don't have to spend a fortune on the most expensive brands, but buy at least one really nice outfit. If you don't have any idea of what's "in", look at what men who are successful with women are wearing, and follow their example. And remember… women pay attention to the smallest details, so you must also. It sounds trivial, but if your belt and shoes don't match, she WILL notice it! So make sure your outfit is on point. Ask the sales rep to help you, they will be more than happy. (ABSOlutely, I THINK I DID but WHY!)
8. Hygiene
It might go without saying, but you MUST be as clean as possible before you go out. As with clothing, women will notice any detail you missed, and it will reflect poorly upon you. Scrub yourself several times – a once over isn't enough. Eliminate any body odor. Use an antiperspirant instead of deodorant. Brush and floss your teeth, use a tongue scraper and mouthwash to get rid of bad breath, and carry mints on you at all times just in case you slip up and eat some shrimp scampi. Get rid of ear and nose hair, and wax extremely hairy eyebrows. If you have a goatee, beard or mustache, make sure it is trimmed and neat. Check to see if your sideburns are even, and fix them if they aren't. This simple stuff will improve the reactions you get from women IMMENSELY. (YA YA!)

9. Go Easy On The Cologne
Many guys use cologne, which is nice. Unfortunately, they almost always use too much. Be careful, too much cologne sends a message to her that you are trying too hard. Think of it like a scratch and sniff sticker – make her work to be able to smell it. You want her to have to lean in to get a whiff. A good technique is to spray the air in front of you and walk into it. If it's not in a spray bottle, dab on just a little tiny bit on your neck. Believe me, less is more here.(DONE!)

10. Bring The Energy
You want to come across as a high energy, positive person that brings the party wherever you go. So start from the minute you arrive at your destination. As you walk through the door, pretend that you own the place, and it is your job to make sure everyone is enjoying themselves. In fact, greet anyone who looks at you, and ask them if they are having a good time. You'll be amazed at the response you get

Feb 12, 2010

Happy 2010 New Year !!!!!

誠摯祝福您 Happy 2010 New Year !!!!!




祝大家 :

新年快樂 !!  一定要幸福喔!!